Let me first start off by saying I am not and never have been Pentecostal. However google is an amazing thing to help me find sites like this. It gives me a little bit of hope for what I am about to ask. My girlfriend who was agnostic, has found and become part of the Oneness Pentecostal religion. She wasn't really into religion before obviously being agnostic. But I noticed the last couple of weeks of talking to her on the phone, things started to seem different. Let me also include that I live in Sacramento, Ca and she lives in Baker City, Or. She moved there to help a friend out who has cancer. She was a childhood friend who is the pastors wife of the church she attends. So back to two weeks ago. I told her something was different about her when she talks to me. She wouldn't say anything and kind of brushed it off. I know this isn't the place to say this, but I want to paint the picture the best I can. I asked her if she wanted to do some extra curricular activities over the phone if you know what I mean. She said no, she doesn't feel sexy. I asked her why and she said she didn't know. The a few days later I find out how deep into the religion she is. No pants, no make up, no TV, the whole nine yards. I was shocked. I never expected this from her. I started doing some research about her religion and came across quite a few websites and blogs with stories I see in here. I immediately became scared for her. A lot of what I was reading was low self esteem in women. So I'm thinking I need to see what all low self esteem affects and sure enough not "feeling sexy or beautiful" was part of it. I'm afraid that after hearing how these rules are more of a sin than they are helpful, along with the low self esteem, that she is in the wrong religion. I feel this way because of what I've been reading about others going through. My goal here is to not get it so we can have those over the phones activities. It is to save her from losing who she really is. I feel she has been brainwashed. I've tried explaining scripture to her. Deuteronomy 22:5 as to what it actually means. And so on with make up and TV. I've tried to explain to her about speaking in tongues. I've done everything I can possibly think of to help her. It has gotten so bad thati told her we cannot be a couple if this is what she chooses. I myself have just recently started going back to a christian church. Basically what I'm asking is, what else can I do? Is there anything I can do to open her eyes before it gets worse and she ends up posting her story to one of these sites. I'm not slamming this site by saying that, at least I hope you understand what I'm trying to say. Because everyone here is powerful for what they have accomplished. So, please, what can I do or help god do to get my Chrissy back? Or is she lost until something bad happens? It breaks my heart and it brings tears to my eyes thinking about it. Thank you all for sharing your stories.