I need help. After we got married he started going to this pentecoastal church. Before he started attending, he used to go out to bars with me, drink, watch movies together, he had his own death metal band. Things started changing about a month after we got married. He first described to me that i would think his church is weird because they speak in tongues. I ended up going with him to 3 services. And by the 3rd service I wanted to run out of the church so bad but i couldn't. Instead I was swaying back and forth with the music, couldn't stop. Soon the preacher came over to me and put his hand on my forehead.. Asking for the devil to leave me, Then it happened. I started speaking in an unknown language & I couldn't get it to stop. I knew in my head that I wanted to stop but i just couldn't. Soon they took me up to the alter, which I also tried to stop. Once the music stopped after about 10 minutes and the preacher took his hand off my forehead i stopped. I seriously have never been so scared in my life. Needless to say that was the last time I went to a pentecoastal church with him.
He started going just Sunday mornings, then it was sunday mornings and sunday nights, and now its up to 3-4 times a week. He stopped his band, he's been playing guitar for over 15 years and did vocals and played guitar and madde his own death metal band. He no longer listens to death metal. He rarely plays guitar. He listens to nothing but gospel and christain talk radio. When I'm not at home, ill come home to gospel music channel on our tv. He also will no longer watch tv or any type of movie. He wakes up at 2 am in the boring to pray for an hour our in the living room by himself. He won't step foot in a bar and he stopped drinking. We no longer have anything in common. On sundays we can't have the tv on at all and he can't do anything if it doesn't involve "praising god". He is obsessed with reading about "afterlife" and "hell". He has told me countless number of times that god is number one in his life and that the "rapture" is coming soon. He has no problem telling me that I'm not a christain although i do believe in god and have my own beliefs. I don't believe in hell but i believe in a higher power or gods. He tells me to be saved I have to be baptized in the holy ghost, aka fully emerged in water. He completely stopped cussing, deleted all of our "illegally downloaded" music from iTunes because he felt it would free him of sin since its considered stealing. I find his trying to preach to me almost any chance he gets. He's so wrapped up in this. He donates over 300 dollars to online websites promoting christianity and such and buys christian cds, books and tracts. He orders these "Tracts" online from one of the websites that he's obsessed with and he has close to 1500-2000 tracts just sitting around. Now on friday and saturdays he wants to go to the beach or the mall and hand these out. This is not the man I married. On our wedding night, he said to me after i said " I can't believe how nice people are, random people telling us congratulations as i was still in my wedding dress at the end of the night" he replied" its amazing how nice people are when your not dressed like a skank. Needless to say, later that night at the hotel, on our wedding night he put his hands on me. didn't hit me but grabbed me, shook me and threw me to the ground while screaming at me. Last night, I research pentecoastal and got nothing but stuff about how they brainwash people and how its a cult. I was so scared that I woke him up and made him read it. He did exactly as one of the articles said he would, deny it, say that it was me that was brainwashed and lash out. He again put his hands on me when i tried to leave after he continually belittled me (which is also sign that he's brainwashed i read, they have to feel above everyone and feel that they are better than everyone) i went to leave and he grabbed me shook me threw me on the bed and got on top of me and sat on me holding my arms down with his knees screaming at me to look at him. I have never in my life seen this side of him and I was literally scared for my life. I don't know what to do at this point and I'm so hopeless that things will change. He said last night that he will live the rest of his life living like this and that this is his lifestyle now and he won't change for me. I want my husband back but at this point and how wrapped up and obsessed he is I'm losing hope. I need advice. Please.