When family members say to me "we love you". They are really saying,"Despite the fact that you no longer allow us to manipulate you and cause guilt and shame in your life.......We STILL love you. Whenever they say,"We are praying for you",they are saying,"Well,we have tried our best to make you stop changing and evolving into a person that thinks and acts differently from the rest of use." One time I said I saw a neat bumper sticker that said,"Jesus,Please save me from your followers.".....It got quite in the room,real quite.