Saddleback Church is anti birth control? I didn't know that. Or do you mean just between unmarried people? Otherwise they'd all have dozens of kids I suspect.

Good point, Conserv, very good point! You could take this to include kissing even in that context. I'm also sorry to hear about what happened to you. It's tragic and goes to show how very damaging any type of sexual molestation is even without physical contact. I experienced something similar with a man exposing himself to me in a parking lot. At the time I was so young as to think it was accidental, but once I grew old enough to realize it was intentional I immediately felt tainted.