Looking4truth wrote:
Just an update: she came back from the church service today announcing that she would be returning immediately to it all (instead of months or years as previously stated). We've been talking all afternoon, and are going to be saying our goodbyes tonite..as she plans on returning tomorrow.

Tandc90, yes it is/was a marital commitment, and I tried HARD and still am trying HARD to get her to think this out. She is insisting this isn't simply because she is having a rough time. Believe me, everything you guys have suggested we discuss...we already have.

Today is the saddest day of my life.

What's worse is that I'll have to stay here until I have the ability to leave (financially), so this is going to be so tough. I do hold out hope that her "reconversion" won't last. I hope...

Ack, I am so sorry to hear that. Waitaminute?! Immediately? This makes no sense...on multiple levels...I just do not get how pente people think they can "turn themselves off" like that and just go with whatever program their crazy beliefs have them following...they seem to just drop everything and go...and/or suck other people into doing the same (please do not let them suck you back in L4T, whatever it takes!) I know how these sudden "switches" work too...my ex and I went from barely having spoken to being *in a relationship* in about the space of a day. She pretty much dropped (almost literally, I kid you not) her entire life where she was living at, so that she could move closer to where I was at. When we met and the first time we got together she lived 2 hours away. Then we didn't hear from each other at all for most of a week and I get a call pretty much saying "I've moved, I'm here, all those problems back there are gone" Well not so much, she brought a lot of them with her she just did not acknowledge them. Your partner will still be who she is tonight, tomorrow. It will ultimately be her loss that she chooses to not be the person that (I believe) God made her...all for a bunch of people who really do not care about her and are probably just using her for...something or other.

Sometimes I think Pentecostalism is like a drug...I can't count how many times my ex told me she was thinking less like them and more like me and then something happens (and it's often not been obvious what it was) and she's right back there in the same old thought process and ways. I just got tired of fighting with it all.

You're strong, L4T, you'll get through this. I hope things will work out between ya'll in the long term I really do. If not, find somebody who doesn't even know what Pentecostalism is. (I am shocked, I tell you, at how many of those people there are)

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