Ack...what is it with people?

Not sure that I can offer you any advice about what to do...but your situation sucks. Point out the obvious, I'd say, in that Pentecostalism is a very woman hating religion and that the people in it, for all their talk of love, aren't very loving. Remind her that once the initial love bombing ends, the people will go back to making catty comments behind her back and doing all the other things they do to people they consider "sinful" which is usually everybody who's ever done, well, anything outside of what the pastor or the church says is okay, and that's not very much. Tell her how you feel, tell her (assuming that I'm reading you right here) that the roomie business is out...and the whole "friend" thing probably is also. (My ex tried that on me numerous times, needless to say she never was much of an actual friend. What she is saying to you in that way is entirely too triggering for me as it sounds a lot like some things my ex said to me at various times.)

Don't make it a choice between you and religion, but definitely point out...not the beliefs and errors thereof of Pente'ism...but the behavior of the Pentecostals and be sure she knows what she's getting into there...once the 'honeymoon' is over, etc. I'm pretty sure you know what I mean. There are a LOT of churches out there that are more accepting and tolerant not only of gay people but also of women, period.

My heart hurts for you, it really does. I cannot for the life of me understand why any person...much less a lesbian who they will never *really* accept for the person that she is...would go back in to that hell (which I wasn't in so much as had it inflicted on me anyway) willingly or not. If anyone ever attempts to forcibly convert me to Pentecostalism I won't wait for them to shoot me for saying no I'd take their gun and shoot myself. They will treat her like sh*t once they 'have' her she has got to know that. They treat everybody that way! I got tired of the Pentes because I can see the obvious, they pee on your leg and tell you it's lemonade, then get mad at you when you point out that it isn't.

Advice would be, wait a bit because logic and reason might kick on. Maybe gently try to show her alternatives, or find someone who can. If that doesn't work after a little while, please...find yourself a partner with no connections to Pentecostalism...even if they are religious make sure it is someone the Pentes do not have their hooks into! (I know my ex, and others, once the hooks are in they go in deep but I'm pretty sure you know that.)

I'm pretty sure everybody around here knows this already, but situations like yours (besides what it did to me personally) are the reason I have a very deep hatred of Pentecostalism. I don't hate the people...well, most of 'em...but I hate the beliefs and how manipulative they are. These people almost made me hate God.

They hate you, and call it love, and then try to make you believe that it is love...and that that is what love is like.