Max, what happen with your mom, pastor not paying a visit is very normal. We were involved in the Rest Home and during are time 2 years, not once did the pastor go to check on any of the members who now made this there home. The sad part was these dear old people would ask about him and say let him know they were praying for him, the pastor never ask about them.

When we lost our last preg and on top of that I almost die from it, due to loss of blood ended up in the hospital for a week. Not once did the pastor or his wife came to see me, not one phone to see how I was, nor one house visit. All my husband heard from the pastor and his wife, was your wife needs to be here she setting an example to the other women. During that whole time only one dear older lady called, and told me to stay in bed that she understood.
No man or woman who tries to pursue an ideal in his or her own way is without enemies.
Daisy Bates (1863-1951)