Mookey, thank you for your thoughts. Yes, cults are insidious.
I wonder about so many things pertaining to this church. I was raised to know that God is love, and families are part of God's love. God loves us, all of us. What is it that has been instilled in the members of this church to feel that it is alright to tear families apart? Where is God=love, in the scheme of their beliefs? For me, this is not the loving God I know, that they pretend to know.