My mil put it this way, "It isn't that I mind his church getting a liittle of his trust, it's that they took all of it." My mil is very generous with her loot. She gives alot of it away, cause as she says, "It's much more than I will ever spend!" She silently helps lots of people and organizations. However, she is so angry at her grandson and that church...well......you all understand.
ps..she misses the grandson she used to know. She says it's as if someone else has inhabited her grandson's body!