I'm really sorry to hear this. It's all so unfair, but it seems to happen all the time. I think these churches are living in fantasy land, and when something happens to rock that - ie. a divorce - the members play "let's pretend."
Unfortunately, it's so easy to get caught up in it, and to demonise innocent people.
The loss of church friends is one of the worst things possible. I'm still reeling, eleven years on.
Hope you will heal soon.
Best wishes.