Elizabeth, they haven't spoken to me in over 2 years, so I couldn't pass on any info you gave me, but thank you for your concern.

Passionfruit, he very seldom goes to a doctor...the few times he has had an issue, such as a sore throat or cough, that he felt required an antibiotic, he had a nurse that attends their church get her boss to call it in without seeing him. He doesn't want to go to the doctor and have them say he needs to lose weight. He claims he has a physical every year and the doctor said he is healthy and has perfect blood pressure, but I doubt that.

Blackdog, she doesn't think much beyond the moment she is in. My father was always worried about what would happen if BIL died. He was even more worried that BIL would  have a massive stroke and not die and my sister would have a 500 pound invalid to take care of.